Emotions as we experience them can often feel so overwhelming. When we start to experience negative emotions, or even profound emotions, it feels unbearable. It’s difficult. Even if those emotions are good things.
It takes patience to deal with those emotions, but more than patience, it requires time to think. You can’t simply sit on your emotions in the hope that they’ll resolve themselves. No, you must do the work. That work, I have found, is simple reasoning.
A lot of people overcomplicate this. They talk about their emotions as if they are a cloud of magical steam that looms over them and need to be let pass by. They say that you must imagine your Self as an ocean and your thoughts as beach balls floating in that ocean.
I like to think that I am more grounded in reality than that.
You can reason through your emotions, it just doesn’t work how most people might think, or it’s harder than people think.
When you feel a disturbing, negative, or irritatingly profound emotion that you need to ease the burden of, you must have the curiosity of a scientist. The thing a lot of people don’t understand here, is that you must be honest with yourself and the ugly facts of your mind in order to reason through your emotions. If you can’t do that, then you are deceiving your Self, and it’s no wonder you don’t believe you can reason about emotions. Ask your Self why you feel these emotions, and be honest. Then do it again, Why? Why? Why? After enough recursions, you will arrive at a (probably disturbing) truth. Then, you can begin to heal.
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